A Scary Holiday

 

The holidays are right around the corner and should be a joyous and happy occasion to share with friends, family and loved ones. Unfortunately this is a time where domestic violence occurs most often. For some, this holiday season will be a scary and frightening time. As statistics show , women and children will experience one or more types of abuse. Domestic Violence dose not discriminate. It happens n every type of households in every religion, race, financial background, language and origin. We need to educate ourselves to the different types of abuse there are. It's not just the physical abuse that is a problem, there are many different types. the most common types of abuse that will be experienced around the holidays are  

•  neglect
•  physical abuse
•  sexual abuse
•  emotional abuse

Here are a few signs of an Abusive Relationship 

• Calling you offensive or derogatory names or insults your intelligence
• Humiliating you in front of other people
• Threatens you with physical violence, abandonment, or harm to others you love
• Threatens to harm them self if you leave the relationship or agree to their wishes
• Shows excessive jealousy around your friends and family
• Isolates you from friends, family, or your community
• Tries to control what you wear, eat, say, spend time with, spend money on, etc.
• Blames you for their actions
• Threatens to 'out' you as a lesbian, gay, bisexual or trans-gender person
• Threatens to infect you with an illness, like a sexually transmitted infection
• Withholds or threatens to withhold medication
• Hurts you physically in any way
• Pressures you into having any sexual contact against your will
• Becomes violent or controlling when they are under the influence of drugs or alcohol
• Is violent towards animals or people
• Steals money from you, or wont allow you access your own money
• Tries to stop you from working or making money
   

The more we know about domestic violence the better we are able to see the signs of abuse and maybe stop ourselves from getting into those types of relationships. We will also be able to see signs if someone we know and love is in an unhealthy relationship. We will be able to be there for them if they need our help.  I myself was in an abusive relationship and I'm very grateful to my family and friends for being there to support me when I myself needed the help. All I know is that I didn't have the strength to do it for myself,but I knew I had to do it for my children. I didn't want my daughter to think it was normal for a man to treat her the way I had been treated. I didn't want my son to become an abuser to women. What ever your reason is, just know that you desire not to live in fear.


 Canetha Amour  ~Entrepremommy~