Understanding Your Kids

Kids come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Different personalities, temperaments and attitudes defines each and every one. Being a mother of four children has really shown me how different they can be even if I have given birth to each and everyone of them and not one are alike.

And with that being said, I quickly realized that all of my children have different needs and wants from me. I tried to give them all the same amount of time and attention, but that didn't work at all. You have to find out what your child needs are and try to accommodate just that. I don't know about you, but it seems to me that my two children that are in the middle of the oldest and youngest, need the most attention. They don't need quantity, but quality time to keep them headed on the right track. If I don't give them that time then I may haveunknowingly sabotaged myself and my day. They are both really bright and hyper, and with that combination it can be quite dangerous if I hadn't taking out time to make sure that they know that I'm in tune with what their needs are for the day. Also, it helps to make them responsible for tasks that focuses all of their energy on more productive things.

On the other hand, my 12 teen daughter only wants to be bothered with me when she wants something or is bored. At first I thought she would help to free up my time, but oh was I so wrong. She's the one that I give most of my attention to. I really need to pay attention to what's going on with her and what's in her head. I have to pull all of the information out of her but it is so worth it! Whoever told me that when your kids get old your schedule becomes free, lied to me.

Last be not least the one I really don't have to focus most of my attention on is the youngest. You ask why? My youngest is always around me or stealing my attention. He makes sure that he informs me of what everyone else is doing. Of course he does no wrong. Well, he does, it's just that i know when he is up to something each and every time. How? Well, if he is away from my side for more than ten minutes, a bell goes off in my head to alert me that he is doing something that he shouldn't be doing.

To summarize:
1) Spend quality time with each child individually
2) Talk with your children to keep communication open as they get older
3) Make them responsible for completing task everyday

Each child need different things from you at different times. It's your job to find out what those needs are.
No one said that would be easy, but if they did say that then they don't have kids. 

A Stress Free School Year

                Yes, it's that time of year again and I know that the beginning of every school year use to stress me out. Because, I'm a single mother of four children with ages ranging from 12 to 5, this could be a very hectic time in my life, and it's not. I have learned how to get on a system and you can too! I'm going to list a few suggestions and the schedule that works for me, but you have to see which ones will work for you.

First, start picking up school supplies as soon as you see the stores start selling them.  Even if you don't have the new school list you can always pick up the items that you know they will be using this years. Most schools post their supply list on their websites early. So make sure to frequent their website often to get any new updates.

A week or two before schools starts, start waking up your kids at their in-school wake up time and also enforcing their in-school bed times. This will make it easier for you and them to be on time.

Keep a good record in your calender of the schools schedule and early dismissals. I prefer to use my calender that is on my phone. Also have a family calender posted so that your children gets use to checking the calender for their events.

I, nor my my children are morning people, so if your like us, try to turn on some great tunes in the morning to give you and the kids energy to start your day. You may also want to set out your children clothes for the week. If that doesn't work for you, try the night before. Also if they take cold lunch to school, you might want to make their lunches at night. It saves so much time in the morning for your kids to make up their beds and clean their rooms before school.

Last but not lease, schedule their time after school. This is very important so that everything can be accomplished in a day! Make it a great school year!

About Me

Hello everyone! I am Canetha Amour, a single mother of four beautiful children. I had always saw myself married with the white picket fence and a dog, but things don't always end up like a fairy tale. Now, that I'm at this place in my life, I'm really enjoying life! I worked in Sales and Marketing for over 10 years and now I am able to work from home and be a soccer mom! All of the different challenges in my life has caused me to become a much stronger person and someone that I can be really proud of. Follow me on my journey to make the best out of life and pursue a life of happiness. Please comment and post ideas that will add to someones life. I can't wait to share with you!