Kids come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Different personalities, temperaments and attitudes defines each and every one. Being a mother of four children has really shown me how different they can be even if I have given birth to each and everyone of them and not one are alike.
And with that being said, I quickly realized that all of my children have different needs and wants from me. I tried to give them all the same amount of time and attention, but that didn't work at all. You have to find out what your child needs are and try to accommodate just that. I don't know about you, but it seems to me that my two children that are in the middle of the oldest and youngest, need the most attention. They don't need quantity, but quality time to keep them headed on the right track. If I don't give them that time then I may haveunknowingly sabotaged myself and my day. They are both really bright and hyper, and with that combination it can be quite dangerous if I hadn't taking out time to make sure that they know that I'm in tune with what their needs are for the day. Also, it helps to make them responsible for tasks that focuses all of their energy on more productive things.
On the other hand, my 12 teen daughter only wants to be bothered with me when she wants something or is bored. At first I thought she would help to free up my time, but oh was I so wrong. She's the one that I give most of my attention to. I really need to pay attention to what's going on with her and what's in her head. I have to pull all of the information out of her but it is so worth it! Whoever told me that when your kids get old your schedule becomes free, lied to me.
Last be not least the one I really don't have to focus most of my attention on is the youngest. You ask why? My youngest is always around me or stealing my attention. He makes sure that he informs me of what everyone else is doing. Of course he does no wrong. Well, he does, it's just that i know when he is up to something each and every time. How? Well, if he is away from my side for more than ten minutes, a bell goes off in my head to alert me that he is doing something that he shouldn't be doing.
To summarize:
1) Spend quality time with each child individually
2) Talk with your children to keep communication open as they get older
3) Make them responsible for completing task everyday
Each child need different things from you at different times. It's your job to find out what those needs are.
No one said that would be easy, but if they did say that then they don't have kids.
No comments:
Post a Comment